You don't need anyone to tell you that teenagers are a difficult breed. They are on the precipice of adulthood, while being stuck in a body still trying to figure itself out through puberty. Male teenagers can especially be challenging because they are immersed in a culture where they are being told to always "man up," and "stop crying." As a result, they may deal with problems by either running away through avoidance and distraction (this can be manifested through being glued to their phones, constantly playing video games and exhibiting a lack of emotion) or by showing oppositional behavior. What teenage boys aren't taught in this culture, is how to cope with the daily stressors of life.
I've seen so many adults in their mid 30s and 40s who wished they could have gone back in time to learn how to process and cope with negative experiences and emotions.
The stigma of counseling is starting to change and it's better now than later to invest in counseling for your teenager. It'll save years of problems and equip them with the right tools and awareness that it is best to deal with negative stressors head on, coupled with healthy coping skills.
Whether through social media feeds or news outlets, it’s so easy to be inundated with news that can trigger personal trauma. You may not be aware of it in the moment when you’re scrolling through your phone or catching a short reel of the top news around the world, but your body is keeping score. It’s been shown that if trauma isn’t worked through within the first 90 days, that it can metabolize within your body and ‘be stuck.’ Over time, symptoms can arise that may have its roots in unresolved trauma. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t seek medical help to address the physical symptoms, but that is to say that it is important to work through unresolved traumas. I’ve worked with many who are well into adulthood who have learned to deal with traumas by “sucking it up.” They learn to cope through forms of distraction and avoidance and as a result, never wind up dealing with their trauma. You've heard the analogy before--if you don't address a small cut, it may fester into something that's worse. Don't allow time to continue to pass with your unresolved trauma. It'll be the best investment you can make--there isn't a promise that it won't be easy, but it'll certainly be worth it.
Guidelines for Sex Education with Children.
The General Principle: Honesty is the best policy! Don’t tell children something you don’t believe and practice yourself. Remember, children don’t just follow what you say, but how you behave. Model healthy intimacy.