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Healthy communication tips

10/7/2021

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Healthy communication takes practice and planning. Here are some tips to help you get started.
·       Use "I statements.” Say things like, "I feel upset when you ___" instead of, "You're making me upset." Steer clear of blaming or accusing them of purposely trying to hurt you.
·       Be clear and direct. No one can read your mind, so tell them what you think, feel, and need.
·       Don’t push aside your feelings. Bring up things that bother you early on so they don’t build up and become bigger problems.
·       Build trust. Unless someone has given you a reason not to, believing that they’re telling you the truth and assuming that they mean well helps establish trust.
·      Ask questions. If you don't understand what they're saying or why, ask questions. Don’t make assumptions.
·     Talk in person. It's really easy to misunderstand or misinterpret a text message or email. Talking in person (or through video chat) will allow you to hear their tone of voice and see their body language.
·       Don’t yell. Getting angry or defensive during an argument is totally normal. But if you’re feeling upset or angry, take a break until you both cool off.
·       Be willing to apologize. Everyone makes mistakes. Saying you’re sorry (and meaning it) goes a long way in helping to move on after a fight.

All these tips are easier said than done.  Entering into couple's counseling can help partners understand each other's blind spots with the goal of increasing empathy and understanding.  I have found that the issue for most people is not that they don't know what to do, but rather having the ability to change.  Book a free consult and invest back into your relationship today.

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