Conflict resolution

3 R's of recovery from mistakes within relationships:

Recognize: This involves identifying the mistake.  There has to be empathy and understanding of the hurt caused to your partner.  They have to be seen and heard.  If one doesn't recognize the mistake accurately, this will create more distance.

Reconcile: This involves communicating that you've made a mistake.  It is not only acknowledging and identifying, but seeking to bridge the gap of distance that the mistake created.  This happens through love, listening and leaning into your partner.

Resolve: This involves seeking a collaborative solution.  I always say that conflict is not only necessary but a vital part of growing in intimacy.  It is through positive conflict resolution, that you can grow in deeper understanding and empathy for your partner.  You can learn the hurts caused and grow in adjusting to your partner.

All these steps are easier said than done, and is only made possible when both partners are able to enter into vulnerability with each other.